Russ,
I do not know if it will work for you but I am making my resevoir with 4" ABS. The bottom is just capped. The top has a reducer down to 3" and a screw in plug. I drill where the cap or reducer are coupled with the pipe. I tap the hole with a 1/4" NPT pipe tap and thread in the hose barb. No glue at all. I have found like you have that the glue no matter the type will not hold up. The best type I could find was two part epoxy that was waterproof not just water resistant. It holds up OK but not like threading them in.